How many times have you felt lost? I know I have - more than once.

It’s an incredibly uncomfortable place to be. When you feel lost, it can seem as though you have no direction in life at all - not in your work, your relationships, or even in who you are. It can be painful, bewildering, and utterly exhausting. You might feel that you should be doing something but haven’t the faintest idea what that is. And then comes the spiral - uncertainty builds, fear creeps in, and before long it feels like everything is slipping through your fingers.

Feeling lost often feels like failure. But it isn’t. It’s perceived failure - because we haven’t actually failed at all. It’s just that, when the darkness takes over, we lose sight of what’s still good. We forget the things we’ve already overcome, what we’ve built, and who we have beside us. We can feel invisible. Unseen, unheard, unacknowledged, and that in itself can be heartbreaking.

When we’re in that space, it can feel like our mind shuts down. In a way, it does. It’s trying to protect us from overwhelm. But I’ve come to realise that this “shutdown” can actually be an important part of a transition. It’s the pause that allows us to recalibrate, to question what we’ve been doing, and to sense whether our life still feels in alignment with our soul.

We start to unlearn old beliefs and relearn who we truly are. And yes, that can feel confusing, even frightening, but it’s also where transformation begins.

I’ve been through many transitions in my life. Some I recognised at the time, others I only understood afterwards. Each brought its own sense of loss - for the past, for what was familiar, for who I thought I was. But every single one brought me closer to myself.

Transition is rarely neat or linear. It’s messy and unpredictable. You can feel like you’re coming up for air one moment, only to tumble back down the next. But even when it feels like you’ve fallen again, you’re never quite as low as before. Healing and personal growth move in an upward spiral. We circle around the same lessons, but each time we rise a little higher.

So what can you do when you feel lost? Here are a few of the things that help me, and my clients, find clarity again.

Journalling

Journalling is one of my go-to tools. It helps get the noise out of my head and onto paper. The more we write, even if it feels repetitive, the more we begin to clear space for clarity. Imagine your mind as a jar filled to the brim with marbles. Nothing can move until you take some out. Writing helps create that space, it allows inspiration and intuition to flow again.

Tapping (EFT)

This one is close to my heart. Tapping is a gentle but powerful way to ease the sense of being lost. It helps calm the nervous system, release the fear, and shift the fog so you can begin to see your next step more clearly. Each time you tap, it’s as though you move another turn up the spiral — a little lighter, a little clearer, a little more in tune with yourself.

When I work with clients who feel lost or disconnected, we use tapping to release old emotions and beliefs, to help them reconnect with their inner guidance. It’s not about “fixing” anything - it’s about helping you remember who you are beneath the noise and confusion.

Music

Music has the power to change your energy instantly. Whether it’s a song that makes you cry, one that makes you dance, or something meditative that soothes your soul, sound shifts emotion. It helps bring us back into alignment. Try creating a playlist that moves with your mood - from stillness to strength.

Remember, You’re Not Failing

Feeling lost isn’t a sign of failure; it’s a sign that your soul is calling for change. You’re simply in the in-between, the space between who you were and who you’re becoming. It’s normal to feel disoriented while your energy, your beliefs, and your identity are all realigning.

I’ve walked that path many times myself. And through my work - blending intuitive guidance, EFT tapping, and soulful support - I help others navigate their own transitions, so they can reconnect with their truth and move forward with renewed clarity, peace, and purpose.

If you’re feeling lost right now, know this: you’re not broken. You’re recalibrating.

And that, my lovely, is the beginning of something beautiful.