Are all therapists 'sorted'?

Honestly? No.

Just a quick little blog to clarify something that I imagine many people wonder.

Now this may be purely an assumption by me: that people assume that as a therapist I have all the answers and I'm completely healed of everything that's happened in my life. Sometimes I wish that were true. However, the reality is that I'm still human - all therapists are human.

Why is that?

Well, because we're having this human experience called life, and we're all likely to have 'issues' to face and heal on an ongoing basis - because life happens.  And I also believe that it comes with the territory.  I see it as part of the job - for me to be the best I can be, I need to clear up from situations that have caused me upset or discomfort. And by 'clear up' I mean genuinely heal.

Healing isn’t just about fixing what’s broken; it’s about growth, learning, and moving forward. Every time I work on myself, I gain new insights, tools, and perspectives that help me support others. This is what I love. This is what I’m here to do. But I can only serve others authentically if I do the work, too.

Another reason is that I know that I am here to heal the ancestral traumas on both sides of my family. Although I don't have siblings, I am the only one in my family who does this kind of work, who looks beyond what is immediately in front of them to bring about change. I am a black sheep, and I now see my son carrying out this role - from both sides of his family. And I couldn't be prouder.

How do clients benefit?

Through my lived experience they know that I have, or am, walking the walk not just talking the talk. All the qualifications in the world wouldn't make a good therapist without lived experience, to some degree or another. Continuing my own healing keeps me humble. Learning from my clients, keeps me humble.

Many therapists will say that they get the clients they need, and I love it when I am challenged by a client, because it shows me what needs to be healed within me, aspects that I wasn't consciously aware of. The more I heal, the more my clients heal.

My clients also like to hear any shared experiences, to know that I can relate to them and have healed. They see that there is the possibility of healing, change and transformation.

The Journey Continues

So no, therapists aren’t ‘sorted.’ We’re evolving, just like everyone else. And that’s not a flaw. It keeps us connected, humble, and always learning.  Healing isn’t a destination, it’s a way of being.

And I wouldn’t have it any other way.