I’m a big believer in the power of tears.

I’ll happily put my hand up and say - I’m emotional. I cry when I need to, and I don’t see that as a weakness. I see it as a strength. Crying is one of the most natural things we can do as human beings. And yet, I know so many people really struggle with it.

I have this conversation time and time again with my clients. Many of them have learned - been told, conditioned, or expected, to “put up and shut up” with whatever’s going on. In other words: don’t feel, don’t express, just get on with it. And by the time they come to see me, they’re often at breaking point. They're emotionally blocked, exhausted, and disconnected from themselves.

We have tear ducts for a reason. Yes, on a physical level, they help cleanse and protect our eyes. But we also cry emotional tears. That’s a deeply human trait. So why would something so natural, something literally built into us, be seen as wrong? It’s not. What is wrong is the pressure that’s been passed down through generations telling us that to cry is weak. That to feel is too much. That emotions are messy or inconvenient.

I say this with every fibre of my being: to feel our emotions is not a weakness - it is a profound strength.

Much of my work with clients is helping them reconnect with what they’re actually feeling, because they’ve buried it for so long, they don’t even know. They’ve become numb. And the truth is, what we suppress doesn’t disappear, it stores itself in the body. And it will come up, one way or another.

Since my cancer diagnosis, I’ve been speaking more openly about my own emotional healing. The cancer itself didn’t frighten me. What’s been harder is what I’ve felt afterwards - grief, sadness, anger, fear. Feelings from childhood, and since, that I thought I’d dealt with, but hadn’t fully. They’ve come rising to the surface to be seen, felt, and finally healed. And part of that healing is allowing myself to cry. I let it all come. All of it. All of me. Because I know that every tear that falls is releasing something old, something heavy.

And I say this with my hand on my heart: I truly believe a major part of my cancer was the result of unhealed emotional pain. Years of not letting go. Of holding it all in.

So next time you feel the tears rising, I encourage you - don’t push them back. Let them fall. Each time we cry, we release a layer. And let’s be honest, most of us are carrying layers upon layers of emotional weight. If we don’t allow those layers to move, they’ll stay buried… and in time, they will cause problems - emotionally, mentally, and even physically.

This isn’t just my belief—it’s backed by research too. Emotional tears contain stress hormones like cortisol and ACTH. Crying can help activate the parasympathetic nervous system, which brings us back to a state of calm. One study published in Frontiers in Psychology found that people often feel better after crying, especially when supported by others or when they understand the reasons behind their tears.

Tears aren’t the enemy. They’re part of the medicine. Tears are not just emotional - they’re energetic.

They carry the frequency of what’s been held inside us. The grief, the anger, the fear, the heartbreak, the exhaustion, the deep soul ache we’ve never given voice to. When we cry, we are not just shedding water—we are releasing the weight of stories, patterns, and suppressed truths that the body has been holding on to.

Tears can wash away pain in a way that words never quite can. They soften us. They clear out the heaviness. They bring us back to ourselves.

Energetically, crying allows blocked emotions to move. Emotions are energy in motion—e-motion—and when they stagnate, they create tension, discomfort, illness. But when we allow the tears to fall, we invite flow. We create space. We honour the body's wisdom and give permission for our inner world to be felt and witnessed.

Sometimes we don’t even need to “know” what we’re crying about. The mind may not understand, but the body does. The soul does. And it will cry when it’s safe to do so.

This kind of release is sacred. It is a recalibration. It is the beginning of real healing.

So if you're someone who’s been holding it all in, waiting for the “right” moment—please know: that moment is whenever your body says it is. And when you do allow the tears, trust that you're not breaking down… you're breaking open.

Open to truth.
Open to softness.
Open to healing.
Open to you.